(Roommates at my Bridal Shower. We were SO YOUNG!
Fun fact: now 4/5 of us are married. Circa April 2012)
Fun fact: now 4/5 of us are married. Circa April 2012)
"Your happiness is more important than a fight."
And I thought a lot about it during that day. I mean, JD and do not agree all the time. Was I single handedly ruining our relationship because I am not at all submissive (if you know me at all, you know I've got a pretty strong personality...for better or worse)? Would I be better off just letting JD run all over the countryside buying every piece of Nintendo memorabilia he wanted? I mean, my marriage sure feels pretty happy...am I doing something wrong? So, allow me to go through some myths about fighting in marriage and why I think you should let conflict happen.
MYTH: Don't go to bed angry
FACT: This is one I sometimes agree with and sometimes don't. Mostly just because,when you're tired the fight always just continues to get worse. Sometimes, you just have to go to sleep and deal with it in the morning. If you're in the middle of a knock out, drag out type of argument, it is probably best to get it finished before going to bed. However, if you're just going in circles because you're so exhausted, you may just want to give a time-out until the morning.
MYTH: Happy Couples Don't Fight
FACT: JD and I are a happy couple. And we do fight. We allow conflict into our marriage on a small scale as a way to express our frustrations. When I get passive aggressive (which, let's be honest, happens a lot) I create a way bigger conflict that necessary. If we express our problems frequently, we're less likely to have huge fights.
MYTH:Conflict means there is a lack of love in your marriage
FACT: The best things in life are worth fighting for. If you marriage is your top priority, you should be doing everything possible to fight to make it the best. That means airing your grievances with your spouse so you both know what you need to be doing to make your marriage fulfilling for both of you.
MYTH: Don't go to bed angry
FACT: This is one I sometimes agree with and sometimes don't. Mostly just because,when you're tired the fight always just continues to get worse. Sometimes, you just have to go to sleep and deal with it in the morning. If you're in the middle of a knock out, drag out type of argument, it is probably best to get it finished before going to bed. However, if you're just going in circles because you're so exhausted, you may just want to give a time-out until the morning.
MYTH: Happy Couples Don't Fight
FACT: JD and I are a happy couple. And we do fight. We allow conflict into our marriage on a small scale as a way to express our frustrations. When I get passive aggressive (which, let's be honest, happens a lot) I create a way bigger conflict that necessary. If we express our problems frequently, we're less likely to have huge fights.
MYTH:Conflict means there is a lack of love in your marriage
FACT: The best things in life are worth fighting for. If you marriage is your top priority, you should be doing everything possible to fight to make it the best. That means airing your grievances with your spouse so you both know what you need to be doing to make your marriage fulfilling for both of you.
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